Personal reports
"Some years ago I came to Sexual Grounding Therapy as someone looking for some understanding of the deep forces of sex which had fascinated me (mostly in secret) all my life and often got me into difficult waters personally. But my approach was initially a professional one: I had been working as a therapist with couples and sexually abused people and realised that my family systems, psychoanalytical and psychosynthetic ways of working could not help me reach confidently into the areas I needed to.
However, I was not prepared to be as deeply touched as I was by Willem Poppeliers and his Sexual Grounding Therapy. Willem's passion for his subject and his deep humanity soon made me realise that there was much more to the subject of human sexuality than I ever realised.
The first thing I learned, directly from Willem and his personal example, was that innocence and honesty lay at the heart of human sexuality. I had nurtured my own sexual life as something rather shameful and best kept secret. This new approach was groundbreaking for me. Nor had I realised how much my own sexual being had to do with the precise relational world I was born into – that of my father and mother. At first, like many of my peers, I had shuddered at the thought of their sexual life together.
Over the years of working with Sexual Grounding Therapy many things have changed for me. Professionally, I now have a clear and precise understanding of the workings of human sexuality. I am able to give confidence to my clients to explore things they had never imagined they could have done in therapy, and I understand how to work with erotic transference and counter-transference safely and effectively.
But the best results still remain personal: inside, I feel completely different. I have shed the mantle of shame that I clung to for many years, and I am much more able to open, intimate - giving and receiving - in my own sexual relationship. Perhaps the strangest changes have come about in my immediate family relationships. In my family of origin, without consciously trying to change anything, a new sense friendship and acceptance reigns – for the first time we seem to enjoy being with one another! In the difficult areas of intimate relationship and parenting I have a much better idea of what is required, where to make more effort and where to relax; in consequence the quality of these engagements is profoundly different.
Sexual Grounding certainly worked for me, and I can wholeheartedly recommend it."
Nick Duffell
